MANILA, Philippines – Carla Abellana broke her silence following her separation from her husband Tom Rodriguez.
On the comment section of one of her vlogs, Carla answered the harsh words thrown to her by a netizen. She went on to explain her side of the story and gave details on the reason for their split.
The thread of Carla's reply began from a netizen's comment saying, "And my comment was removed hahaha. Bakit? Takot ka mabasa na hypocrite ka. Wag ka magbait baitan kasi Hindi ka mabait.”
“Ayaw ko lang po ng negativity,” Carla replied.
However, another netizen chimed in blaming her for helping spread negativity against her husband. The netizen wrote, “Ayaw mong negativity sana d ka na lang nag like sa mga nega comments kay Tom, sana nung nagka problema kayo sana hindi ka nag igs na humihingi ka ng tulong?”
The netizen went on to advise Carla to fix her marital woes instead of asking for an annulment. The netizen also criticized Carla for “liking” posts that triggered more netizens to speculate and blame Tom for the issue.
Carla decided to defend herself and aired her side of the story. She admitted “liking” cryptic posts that fueled the blame against Tom. But, she said it was just driven out of her anger. She said her heart is broken, and everyday she feels betrayal and pain.
“Opo, nag like po ako, pero yun lang po ang ginawa ko. Hindi ko na po yun inulit. Nag like po ako pero hindi ko po ginawa ng paulit-ulit at ng matagal. Ang taong lubos na nasaktan hirap pong pigilang hindi ilabas ang galit sa anumang paraan. I was disrespected. I was betrayed. I was lied to. I was used. I was shamed. I was made to look so stupid,” she said.
“Kung sana hanggang dun lang po makakabangon din po ako balang araw. Pero para gawan pa po ako at ang pamilya ko ng mas marami pang kasamaan at kataksilan sa mga sumunod na araw, linggo at buwan, sobra sa sobra na po ang sakit at pagdurog ng puso at pagkatao ko,” Carla sated.
The actress turned emotional and recalled how she gave her all for Tom. She said she gave him all the love, care, respect, and understanding. Carla went on to reveal that during their entire relationship, she wasn’t allowed to feel or complain about anything because Tom would hurt her.
“Wala po akong ginawang masama kay Tom. Wala po akong ibinigay kay Tom kundi tunay na pagmamahal, respeto, pag-aalaga, pag-aaruga, pag-unawa, pagtitiis, sangkatutak na pagpapatawad, milya-milyang pasensya, paniniwala, pagtiwala, pag-aasikaso, pag protekta, lahat lahat na,” she noted.
“Binigay ko po buong buhay ko sa kanya. 7 na taon po akong bawal magalit, magtampo, masaktan, mabigo, malungkot, madismaya dahil hindi po pwede. Makakatikim po ako kahit subukan ko pong ipaliwanag sa kanya na nasasaktan niya ako at hindi po tama ang mga ginagawa niya. Paulit-it ko pong pinapaalala sa kanya na hindi po ako kalaban at mabuti po ang kalooban at intensyon ko. 7 na taon pong naipon sa loob ko lahat yun. Gustuhin at kailangan ko man pong ilabas, lubos na nakakakatakot po,” Carla added.
Carla continued that she tried to urge Tom to seek medical help but it didn’t work out. When they got married, the actress said she accepted him wholeheartedly.
“Ilang beses ko po siyang hinikayat na magpatingin, magpagamot at magpagaling dahil yun din po ang gumana sa akin. Pero wala parin po. Tinanggap ko parin po siyang ng walang pagdududa kahit wala pong pagbabago. Hinarap ko po siya sa altar. Buong puso po akong determinadong alagaan ang pagsasama at pagmamahal namin, at panindigan ang mga sinumpaan namin sa harap ng Diyos,” she said.
“Sa dami po ng binigay ko kay Tom wala na pong natira sakin. Galit, pride at ego ko siya narin po ang kumuha sakin at hinayaan ko naman pong kunin din po niya,” Carla went on.
According to Carla, she fought for Tom for 7 years. She said her actions of “liking” cryptic posts are nothing compared to what Tom did to her.
“Sa lala po ng sakit, pambabastos, panloloko, pandudurog, paninira, panggagamit at pagtataksil po niya, mga tinago niya, napakadali pong ibalik sa kanya sa paraan ng pagganti. Pero hindi po ako ganun. Hindi po ako bobo. Hindi po ako lalaban kahit tapak-tapakan na po ako ng husto,” she added.
Carla said she’s not a bad person and all the impressions people get about her online are just small glimpses of her entire personality.
“Hindi po ako mababaw. Hindi po ako masamang tao. Kung ano po ang nakikita, naririnig at nababasa ninyo online ay kakarampot lang po ng hindi po ninyo nakikita, naririnig at nababasa kapag wala pong kahit anong camerang naka record,” Carla said.
As of posting, Carla already deactivated the comment section of the vlog where she made the posts.
Earlier, Tom hinted about being “free” when he posted a cryptic photo of someone breaking free from chains. This came amid the couple’s annulment rumors. Until now, Tom remains silent on the issue.
— Sally, The Summit Express
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| Carla Abellana hints at physical abuse, cheating, betrayal among reasons of split with Tom Rodriguez |
On the comment section of one of her vlogs, Carla answered the harsh words thrown to her by a netizen. She went on to explain her side of the story and gave details on the reason for their split.
The thread of Carla's reply began from a netizen's comment saying, "And my comment was removed hahaha. Bakit? Takot ka mabasa na hypocrite ka. Wag ka magbait baitan kasi Hindi ka mabait.”
“Ayaw ko lang po ng negativity,” Carla replied.
However, another netizen chimed in blaming her for helping spread negativity against her husband. The netizen wrote, “Ayaw mong negativity sana d ka na lang nag like sa mga nega comments kay Tom, sana nung nagka problema kayo sana hindi ka nag igs na humihingi ka ng tulong?”
The netizen went on to advise Carla to fix her marital woes instead of asking for an annulment. The netizen also criticized Carla for “liking” posts that triggered more netizens to speculate and blame Tom for the issue.
Carla decided to defend herself and aired her side of the story. She admitted “liking” cryptic posts that fueled the blame against Tom. But, she said it was just driven out of her anger. She said her heart is broken, and everyday she feels betrayal and pain.
“Opo, nag like po ako, pero yun lang po ang ginawa ko. Hindi ko na po yun inulit. Nag like po ako pero hindi ko po ginawa ng paulit-ulit at ng matagal. Ang taong lubos na nasaktan hirap pong pigilang hindi ilabas ang galit sa anumang paraan. I was disrespected. I was betrayed. I was lied to. I was used. I was shamed. I was made to look so stupid,” she said.
“Kung sana hanggang dun lang po makakabangon din po ako balang araw. Pero para gawan pa po ako at ang pamilya ko ng mas marami pang kasamaan at kataksilan sa mga sumunod na araw, linggo at buwan, sobra sa sobra na po ang sakit at pagdurog ng puso at pagkatao ko,” Carla sated.
The actress turned emotional and recalled how she gave her all for Tom. She said she gave him all the love, care, respect, and understanding. Carla went on to reveal that during their entire relationship, she wasn’t allowed to feel or complain about anything because Tom would hurt her.
“Wala po akong ginawang masama kay Tom. Wala po akong ibinigay kay Tom kundi tunay na pagmamahal, respeto, pag-aalaga, pag-aaruga, pag-unawa, pagtitiis, sangkatutak na pagpapatawad, milya-milyang pasensya, paniniwala, pagtiwala, pag-aasikaso, pag protekta, lahat lahat na,” she noted.
“Binigay ko po buong buhay ko sa kanya. 7 na taon po akong bawal magalit, magtampo, masaktan, mabigo, malungkot, madismaya dahil hindi po pwede. Makakatikim po ako kahit subukan ko pong ipaliwanag sa kanya na nasasaktan niya ako at hindi po tama ang mga ginagawa niya. Paulit-it ko pong pinapaalala sa kanya na hindi po ako kalaban at mabuti po ang kalooban at intensyon ko. 7 na taon pong naipon sa loob ko lahat yun. Gustuhin at kailangan ko man pong ilabas, lubos na nakakakatakot po,” Carla added.
Carla continued that she tried to urge Tom to seek medical help but it didn’t work out. When they got married, the actress said she accepted him wholeheartedly.
“Ilang beses ko po siyang hinikayat na magpatingin, magpagamot at magpagaling dahil yun din po ang gumana sa akin. Pero wala parin po. Tinanggap ko parin po siyang ng walang pagdududa kahit wala pong pagbabago. Hinarap ko po siya sa altar. Buong puso po akong determinadong alagaan ang pagsasama at pagmamahal namin, at panindigan ang mga sinumpaan namin sa harap ng Diyos,” she said.
“Sa dami po ng binigay ko kay Tom wala na pong natira sakin. Galit, pride at ego ko siya narin po ang kumuha sakin at hinayaan ko naman pong kunin din po niya,” Carla went on.
According to Carla, she fought for Tom for 7 years. She said her actions of “liking” cryptic posts are nothing compared to what Tom did to her.
“Sa lala po ng sakit, pambabastos, panloloko, pandudurog, paninira, panggagamit at pagtataksil po niya, mga tinago niya, napakadali pong ibalik sa kanya sa paraan ng pagganti. Pero hindi po ako ganun. Hindi po ako bobo. Hindi po ako lalaban kahit tapak-tapakan na po ako ng husto,” she added.
Carla said she’s not a bad person and all the impressions people get about her online are just small glimpses of her entire personality.
“Hindi po ako mababaw. Hindi po ako masamang tao. Kung ano po ang nakikita, naririnig at nababasa ninyo online ay kakarampot lang po ng hindi po ninyo nakikita, naririnig at nababasa kapag wala pong kahit anong camerang naka record,” Carla said.
As of posting, Carla already deactivated the comment section of the vlog where she made the posts.
Earlier, Tom hinted about being “free” when he posted a cryptic photo of someone breaking free from chains. This came amid the couple’s annulment rumors. Until now, Tom remains silent on the issue.
— Sally, The Summit Express
